Lost Sexual Pleasure After Religion

Stevie Noah
3 min readMay 8, 2022

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Religious trauma can create tension, numbness and a lack of physical pleasure in the sex department for a lifetime…uggg!

After years of indoctrination relating to our body as being a vessel for lust, sinfulness, wrongness, and dirtiness…it’s a wonder ANY of us are procreating at all! lol:)

But all joking aside, it goes deeper than that…

Straight into our nervous system…into WHO BE BELIEVE WE ARE.

And so does the attached belief that it’s going to send us straight to HELL. (Although, it seems Catholic priests found a way to get around this)

Did I just say that?


You see FEAR is the all-prevailing theme here and your survival brain KNOWS this.

And as much as you might want to procreate, or have a chat with the cutie over in the corner of the room, or stay focused in the moment of pleasure as it builds with your AMAZING lover…

You stop yourself.

You tell yourself all the reasons why you won’t.

You can’t.

And the moment is lost.


Then the ruminating thoughts kick in…

I’m broken.

There’s something wrong with me.

What’s wrong with me?

Why can’t I just enjoy it?

Sex and orgasm should be easy, a natural occurrence with a partner you trust and care about. At the very least, it should be something you get to do or experience with another consenting adult…WITHOUT FEAR!

So WHY is it so hard for some of you to feel pleasure or reach orgasm after leaving religion?

Well, the nervous system and the unconscious mind are well trained for 2 very specific things.

  1. To connect the receiving of pleasure with guilt and shame.
  2. The survival brain kicks in to protect you from excitement and arousal.

If you want to learn more about those 2 things and how symptoms of religious trauma might have impacted your sex life, I recommend having a listen to the audio attached here.

Here’s the thing, you’ve got to retrain your unconscious mind to receive pleasure purely for the sake of receiving it. WITHOUT guilt! And you do that by starting with the small pleasures in life.

Arousal, well, it’s all about taking it slow and lifting your nervous system’s shut-off’ valve. Or in other words, training your survival brain to chill out and allow excitement into your body bit-by-bit until you can fully let go and be present in the moment.

I also did a piece on the 90’s Purity Movement that caused all kinds of dark age beliefs to be re-injected back into religious systems…and therefore our body-mind systems.

It’s called 5 Myths and Lies of Purity Culture read it here.

LUCKILY, You can change this pattern, because after all, that’s what it is, a pattern locked into your body-mind system.


If you’d like help letting go of some of these old beliefs you can get my FREE course Recognise, Release, Rehearse anywhere on my website:)

If you’d like to work with me one-on-one to powerfully and rapidly release behaviours, triggers or patterns related to religious trauma and move forward to create a life you LOVE, go HERE.

Please tell me about your experiences with sex or sexuality if you feel comfortable in the comments.

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Choose to be a creator, not an obeyer!

Stevie xo







Stevie Noah

I help religious trauma & cult survivors overcome chronic patterns of unworthiness, fear, guilt, and shame so they can reinvent their life w/o years of therapy